Support Groups offer help for those struggling with relationships
The holiday season can be an exciting time yet stressful time for many. It’s a chance to reflect on relationships and seek help where needed.
This time of year can be joyous, as family and friends get together, but for others it can be an anxious time of year, adding on extra societal and financial pressures.
Micheal E. Wheaton, Marriage and Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, QMHP, Journey Counseling Services, says “The holidays are an incredibly stressful time, it’s a time when people, we assume everybody is having a good time, and it’s all celebration. But there is also a lot of pain and suffering during the holidays. And so it’s a time when the support groups are really needed and it’s a good time to reach out if you need help.”
Rapid City has a number of support groups like PAL, support for parents of loved one who struggle with addiction or Co-dependents anonymous for help developing healthy relationships.
Codependency is a pattern of dependence on compulsive behavior and approval seeking, in an attempt to gain identify and self-worth. Essentially its over functioning in someone else’s life but under functioning in your own.
Traits of codependency may be: no boundaries, people pleasing behaviors, controlling behaviors or low self-esteem.
Wheaton says, “If you end up changing your whole life to try and accommodate their addiction and their behaviors so that you no longer do the things that are important to you. You stop spending time with friends, you stop doing those things that are important for yourself, because you are so invested in the behavior and the actions of this other person, and so you loose yourself in the process.”
Michael suggests striving to be Interdependent where partners recognize and value the importance of the emotional bond they share while maintaining a solid sense of self within the relationship dynamic. Interdependency is best way of being in a relationship with mutual give and take and not being defined by other people’s choices. Someone should seek help if their behaviors are out of control, they are losing sleep, or not enjoying life.
“All the 12 step groups have been widely successful. They have helped a lot of people, there is a lot of evidence about the importance and value of relationships and group process for healing and just support, so these are all good resources. Co-Dependent anonymous here in Rapid City is very valuable.”
Rapid City has been chosen for the 2021 International Conference on Codependency.
Co-Dependents Anonymous meets (if you are new) Sunday 6:30pm-8:00 pm and if you are an ongoing member, meets Saturdays 8am-9am. Meetings are held in the Alano Club Building in the Al-Anon room at 325 Deadwood Avenue. Call Pam M. at 605-786-7465 for more information or go to www.CoDA.org for more information.
For more on Narcotics Anonymous, go to www.sdrna.com or call 605-731-8066.
For more information on Black Hills Area Al-Anon (relatives and friends of alcoholics) call 605-390-6432 or go to www.sdal-anon-alateen.org
For more information on Alcoholics Anonymous in the area go to www.area63aa.gov or call the 24-hour hotline at 605-343-1091. The Alano Club is located at 325 Deadwood Ave., Rapid City and the phone number is 605-342-9808.
Support for parents of loved ones who struggle with addiction or PAL meets at the Emmanuel Episcopal Church at 717 Quincy Street every Tuesday from 6:00-7:30pm. Call 605-484-5610 for more information or go to www.palgroup.org